Right now, there’s nothing to ‘miss out on’.

There’s nothing happening.

The FOMO victims appear to have it even worse than they did before, though. What gives?

FOMO — for those who live under a rock, it means: “fear of missing out“, and it’s used in conversation as if it’s an illness. Here’s an example: “I decided not to go to Billy’s big party, and I wound up having FOMO all night. It sucked.”). Where does that insecurity come from? After all, even if we weren’t missing out on ‘that thing’, there’d be a trillion other things that we could’ve been doing, and we obviously can’t do them all.

This “fear of missing out” is how folks like to frame it, but that’s not the issue.

Right now, we are all at home, either alone or with family.
No events. No parties. No gatherings.
Just… us. At home. Tucked into the bed we’ve made for ourselves. — I hope you’ve been washing your sheets!

FOMO was never the problem.

The real fear is that what we ARE doing and what we DO have are precisely what we deserve.

Accusing “FOMO” of our anxiety is just avoiding the uglier truth. We’re jealous.

When we don’t like the life we’ve designed for ourselves (usually because we refuse to change it), any amount of perceived joy we witness elsewhere feels drastically more desirable than what we’ve got, here, in this shitty house.

Well, we built this house! Or worse, we just moved in blind; no fixes, no new paint, no remodel—we just moved in because it was ‘a home’, and we never had the courage to make it ‘our home’.

On the contrary, once we start taking steps toward the life we want, we realize that the fear, the FOMO, is just a mirage.

There never really has been anything important happening, elsewhere, has there? Even before the COVID Crisis.

It has always been about digging deeper, planting roots, lifting up our eyes, building a home, designing a life to be proud of. All of that can happen right where we are, right now, no matter what else is going on outside.

Go ahead, Mt. Botl awaits.
Take that first step.

About the Author Jakob Gollon

I have re-written this section countless times. This is the crisis of our generation, defining one's self in an 'about me' box knowing that 95% of our peers will log that as 'who we are' without ever speaking to us, because reading the long-version is just too cumbersome for our over-crowded, busy lives. // In short: I'm a polymath with a hyperactive mind, curious about and fascinated by the complexities of, basically, everything. I'm firmly committed to living a life of "areté"—omnipresent excellence, and my mottos are 'making the best of this life' (Mt. Botl), and "Do it now or forever wish you had". // I had a 'famed' basketball stint (captaining the 2014 Mercer team that upset Duke in NCAA Tourney + winning a Nat'l Title as a coach). I quit the sports industry all-together, cold turkey, soon after. I had an existential crisis with 'glory' and 'meaning' and other challenging thoughts revolving around how many hours (90+/week) I was spending trying to 'win games'. // Since 2017, I've been in pursuit of several entrepreneurial ideas and am educating myself on a few new areas of focus. The following is a condensed list of the countless curiosities and industries that I've explored, worked in, or studied the last 3 years (of which I will need to choose 1-3 of to focus on sooner than later). Writing, Podcasting, Teaching—Adjunct College Professor, Public Speaking + Workshops, Building & Construction, Sustainable Real Estate Development—Industrial + Urban Repurposing in particular, Negotiation, Marketing—Branding/design/communications, Woodwork, Gardening, Permaculture-based farming and homesteading, Psychology, Industrial Engineering—Process Improvement + UX consulting, Project Management, Renewable Energy, & Executive Coaching for (select) clients focusing on leadership, personal brand + career development, health habits, productivity, networking, and communication skills. Yes, all of it, and since I sleep minimally, and my mind races like an ostrich all day and night, I know a fair bit about each of those topics. I have an obsession with learning. I'm always looking to connect and have conversations with folks, so, hit me up. I hope my work brings you joy, value, a challenge, or a ripe perspective. Much love, Jakob

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